How To Stop Making Excuses

Hello everyone! I know it has been a while since I posted… I have no excuse.

I have realised in the last few weeks that I had left the blog to the side and focused on my other Social Media – which is not acceptable! This blog is the only place I can truly say how I feel in (many) words. I don’t ever want my attention to stray from where this has all started. No excuses. Focus Rachel!

Although I have been doing a lot of behind the scenes work on the blog, this time has also made me realise that I make excuses for so many other things in my life! Gym, healthy eating, socialising, and work! And I am definitely not alone on this one, as this blog post has been requested over on Snapchat: @basicchic17

Often people say ‘stop making excuses’, ‘get up and go’, ‘work hard, play hard’ ….. but we are all still left there thinking – but HOW? Well, here it is:

  1. Make a List

Sit at a desk or table, not a couch or bed because this way you’ll be more focused. Compile a list of all the goals you have for yourself, beit work, friends, hobbies or health related. You can go as far as categorising if you’re as weird as me, haha!

2. Be hard on yourself

For this moment in time, you want to be as harsh as possible, be your worst critic. It is cruel, but strip your life apart for ten minutes and be realistic – what do I want to achieve? What in my life is not to the standard that it should be? Am I doing enough exercise? Spending enough time with family? Working in the right job?

3. Strategize

Ask yourself – how EXACTLY will I achieve this? Not a brief ‘I’ll spend more time with mum’. No. That will NOT motivate you to do anything, it won’t happen and then you’ll be upset with yourself. The only reason I say you can be harsh on yourself is because when you achieve these goals, the rewards will be invaluable. For example instead you say: Every Friday I will bring Mum, dDad, my brother or sister to do something together – it could be as simple as watching a movie or visiting their house, to having afternoon tea with them as a day out. Make your strategies as descriptive and realistic as possible. The more descriptive they are, the more likely you are to understand, and apply them to your life.

4. Reward Yourself

It may be an inevitable reward, such as the time you spend with your family is irreplaceable. However it could be a different type of reward – such as having a long bath after you worked harder than you ever have before. Or having a glass of wine after leaving that miserable job that you were never passionate about anyway, and jumping into a new, more fulfilling journey ahead.

My point is, stop making excuses and instead – make a list! Be realistic, harsh and work towards your goals – step by step each day. If you’re anything like me making excuses comes as second nature to you – but you and I together, can build ourselves up to the standard that WE want. For us. Because no one else will. No excuses. Focus people!

Rach

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I realise that the title of this blog post sounds a bit far-fetched, or even impossible to achieve. However, the secret to being confident isn’t about how you appear, it is about how you think.

I honestly believe that everyone is capable of being confident, no matter what their circumstances are. Our perception of confidence is often frayed by movies or TV shows – where you should be pretty, tall and slick to be confident. Type casting should be a thing of the past. The truth is, being confident is about realising why you are here.

Am I here to adhere to the norms? Am I here to please everyone? Am I here to put everyone’s happiness ahead of my own? NO! You are here to figure out what makes you happy and do it. You are here to speak your mind, to follow your dreams, to change the norms. I know, I know this post may be a bit melodramatic, but please believe me when I say confidence is a mindset that you will not regret adopting. It comes with deepening your understanding of yourself and your meaning.

Have you ever been self-conscious about your weight? Have you every wondered if those girls are whispering about you? Have you ever been afraid to do something in fear of judgement or rejection? Same. We are all human and I am not saying that there is some magic potion to make you the most outgoing person on the planet. However, I do think that each and every person reading this blog, should take a step back and ask themselves: Am I here, to do what I’m doing?

If not, then change that. The past year for me has been such a turning point in who I am as a person. I have mentioned it before on the blog, but being who I want to be is so freeing. In the grand scheme of things our struggles and insecurities will do nothing but hold us back from what we should be doing. Speaking our mind, following our dreams and changing the norms.

Disregard all ‘advice’ along the way, such as: ‘Nobody likes a show off’ or ‘don’t get ahead of yourself there now’ I promise that once you start listening to yourself, confidence will ooze from all aspects of your personality. Remember, it is not a certain appearance, it is a mindset. Only you can control it.

I hope you enjoyed this post!

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Rach

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